Want to have better conversations or be more interesting in meetings? Learn to talk about more than the weather.

Not everyone is a great conversationalist, and even the best have a tough day now and then. Plus, we all have clients that are challenging to talk to. So, how can you create a better conversation? Here are four ideas:

1) Be interesting by doing interesting things
“Interesting” can be simple or complex. Great conversations can come from things as simple as going to a gallery opening, book reading, or concert. Or for more extreme conversation topics, try running a marathon or skydiving, running with the bulls, or inventing the next great microbrew—you get the idea. Talk about, blog about, and share your interesting experiences.

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It’s funny that I’m writing about this right now, because while beginning this post, without realizing it, I’ve been on my two Twitter accounts, played a word game on my iPhone, responded to a Facebook message, made a connection on LinkedIn, and texted someone a picture of where I’m writing. No wonder I’m surprised that time has flown by.

I love social media. I pretty much have accounts on every platform just because I find it profoundly interesting. At Rule29, we consult with our clients about the best social opportunities out there, so some of my interest is work-related, but the rest is just gadgety-social-nerdiness.

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Most days we get up and go through the motions. The usual, the grind, the routine—you get the picture. But I’m convinced that if we want to evolve in our lives and careers, we need to spend more time actually “seeing” the world around us. (You know, taking time from our Starbucks drinking and social media interacting to pause.)

My amigo and creative producer The Bob™ shared with me one of his favorite quotes from Henry David Thoreau that really challenged me: “It’s not what you look at that matters, it’s what you see.”

This nagged at me—maybe because in my life and work I sometimes feel things getting rote, or expected. I turn too quickly to the proverbial “bag of tricks.” We all seek a certain level of comfort. We like routine. But we also get busy, self-focused, distracted, find ourselves going at warp speed.

I decided to review some definitions of “look” and “see”—and I was even more challenged:
Look: to view something for a reason, with an intention.
See: to notice something that you weren’t looking for.

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Not too long ago, I brought home a delicious Chipotle burrito for lunch. I always love to read the bags. This one said, “Recycling turns things into other things. Which is like magic.” The napkin followed up on the humor:

Most of us have come to love recycling. At least, those of us who live in a town with curbside recycling pickup, with no more sorting, have come to feel very good about giving what-would-be-trash a second chance at life. And we feel good about buying products that are recycled.

But there has been some debate…

Is recycling actually worse for the environment than landfilling or incinerating our trash?

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When we talk about leadership and development, we often talk about being on a path. We all understand that a path leads somewhere; you can’t start a journey without that proverbial first step. But I don’t think we talk enough about taking a good look at the current path we’ve been on—for it’s rarely a path that we would have chosen or mapped out.

How often do you look back at your life and say, “Wow, look at how I got here!?” If you had read a preview of how that trip was going to turn out, you might have chosen to take a vacation or have had another drink. We tend to forget that our careers (and our life, for that matter) never proceed in a straight line; there are bumps, dips, turns, and seemingly instant acceleration. It’s important to remember that when you do find yourself in one of those right turns, or your life is accelerating at a numbing rate, that you have been there before and you may need to take a quick timeout.

The goal should be to reach a point where most things in life are not a surprise. Easier said than done, I know. But as you plan your career or your business goals, you need have an asterisk on your plan that says “You want to go here; you will adjust on the way.” Develop the perspective that your career life is an adventure, and you will take things as they come while trying to navigate the path you feel led to be on. This will reduce your frustrations and your “holy cow” moments, and hopefully provide you with the understanding of which turn or adjustment is the right one.

Every year when I reflect on all the things that have happened and what I’m doing now versus what I thought would occur, I usually chuckle (and sometimes cry), but in the end I’m glad that I’m still around to do something I love. So when I plan my next steps, I go into it with all my past experiences and hope that it will be as painless as possible, full of joy rather than gnashing of teeth, and with the expectation that somehow I can help make this world a better place.

Idealistic? Naïve? The answer is up to you. You have a choice on your “path” to be prepared for the twists and turns ahead. Will you be prepared for the inevitable, or will you let it derail you? I say, welcome the challenges and whenever possible rejoice in what’s going on. It may sound strange, but those turns in the road are what define you. We learn best from our mistakes and failures and how we handle those hurdles. Expecting them is not a pessimistic perspective; it’s a proactive approach from a position of readiness and strength. Welcoming them isn’t masochistic; it’s having the mindset that you intend to learn from each and every experience, no matter what, and that you see it all as a great adventure. So put on your seat belt and welcome the future—and know that it will be different than what you think.

Life often takes us on unexpected pathways. Take time to reflect on the path you’re on and how it’s different than where you thought you would be.

Some Additional Tips:
1. When planning your year and/or setting goals, make time for reflecting on where you have been or where you are going. This journey often needs slight adjustments, be ready to make them.

2. As cheesy as it sounds, be prepared for detours, your attitude and the way you handle those bumps are what affects your enjoyment and satisfaction of your work and life.

3. Pay it forward. Sharing this perspective and what you have learned from the last turn in the road will often help someone else avoid the same pitfall.